"i can't dance" means i am too scared to move around where people might look at me. it's a total delusion that a lot of guys suffer from. i know all about it. i wouldn't even try until i was almost 30. it takes work to get over, but the rewards are greater than you think. it's not a show you put on for other people. it's an act of physical expression. like draining a gland. you go into your own world and experience a release like no other.